Funny how people were preaching about loving your idols and respecting other idols after what happened recently, yet people trying to bring Baekhyun down as if it wasn’t affecting him emotionally being dragged for something he didn’t do or say. It was an act of pure hatred and disrespect towards Baekhyun. Sadly people believe in those words more than in his good intentions.
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The level of vitriol that Baekhyun and his poor fan are receiving as a result of him trying to comfort her over her depression is absurd. I say this as somebody who had depression for over a decade, since I was diagnosed as a child, and as somebody with a number of friends who have also suffered from it. Granted, he didn’t necessarily phrase everything the best way, but everybody suffering from depression needs different ways of being approached at different times depending on what exactly was going on. The fan seemed perfectly happy with the way he treated her, which was why she shared the experience in the first place, and so it seems that what she needed wasn’t the “perfect answer” but more somebody who would listen and care. Even if you’ve suffered it yourself, or if you’re a psychologist, you still make mistakes when it comes to helping people in that kind of situation no matter how much experience you have. Also, what helps one person, or what helps you, is not necessarily going to help another person. There will, of course, be some people who, in that fan’s situation, would not have been at all comforted by what he said, but having dealt with many people with many different attitudes towards mental illness, including “stop faking it, it doesn’t exist”, I can tell you that there is a massive difference between somebody whose attitude is “I’ve never experienced it myself so I don’t understand it and I can’t but I want to help you” and takes an interest in you, and somebody whose attitude is “I’ve never experienced it so I don’t understand it” and sort of shoves it away, or, worse still, somebody who thinks that they understand but actually doesn’t, because that can do a lot more harm than good however well-intentioned. At least Baekhyun was honest with where he was coming from and up front about the short comings he felt he had going in to the conversation, even if it was clumsily phrased (and his apology seemed very sincere). I’ve personally been on the receiving end of that phrase at least a dozen times, and the thing that made the difference was the person’s tone and attitude. The only person who can judge that in this situation is the fan he was talking to. Handling that kind of conversion when somebody comes to you with their problems is also extremely difficult, more so if you don’t know them well or if you aren’t trained to do it. The important thing is he managed to comfort her. I’m also worried about the fan now that people are attacking both of them over the situation. Imagine how she must be feeling, that somebody who helped her find a moment of joy while she’s struggling with a horrible illness. It’s so cruel to hurt somebody already suffering over something like that. I hope it’s not affecting her too much, and also that she’ll be able to conquer her depression sometime soon.
Exo’s new album Universe is a masterpiece. Every song is so good and they all show how good their voices are.
I can’t stand it how Baekhyun apologized for doing nothing wrong because a hater translated wrong what he said on purpose so that he would get hate. And not only Baekhyun apologized but also the fan who had depression. I feel really bad for her as she may now feel responsible for all the hate Baekhyun gets. I can’t believe that the one who mistraslated Baek’s words never said at least a simple sorry. I hope the best for the fan and to overcome depression soon and for Baekhyun to stay strong.
It is disgusting how people hated on Taeyeon and Baekhyhn for dating. I still ship them really hard and I hope that they are still together and just hide it very well. I know some may call me delusional but everyone has the right to hope whatever they want right?
SM is actually very smart by debuting a group like NCT after EXO. Given how EXO completely blew up, having a group with a completely different concept gives less of a basis for comparison. That reduces the pressure on NCT to be as successful. Other companies do it too, like FNC with SF9, Woolim with GLCD, WM with ONF, Cube with Pentagon, JYP with Stray Kids. I have to give props to the companies for that. I hope Bighit is as smart with their upcoming boy group.
I live for EXO’s winter albums. They always deliver, and they’re always gorgeous. Sometimes it’s like listening to a whole different group from the EXO that puts out all kinds of music in the summer and I really like that.
As I am both an Exo-l and army, it’s so sad seeing the same situation in both fandoms regarding line distribution. Both jin and sehun hardly has any lines (literally seconds) and when fans speak up about their lack of lines (in both fandoms) they get outed for being a solo Stan, other fans saying they don’t need any more lines, that they are not ready etc. it’s ridiculous how speaking up about your bias or simply a person in the groups lack of lines makes u a solo Stan. Both need more lines!
It’s so weird to think that Johnny could have been in EXO. I constantly wonder how different it would be if Johnny had debuted with them. A part of me thinks that they would have been a little better off? Not to say that they’re not doing well or anything, but he’s kind of the motivator in NCT? Maybe he would have the same role in EXO? I can’t really explain it, but he’d give them some kind of approachability, I guess. Not that they’re not approachable don’t kill me EXO-Ls I just think that Johnny would have altered the atmosphere of the group a bit.
the people are starting fanwars over the shit that’s happening with Baekyun is just so annoying. people are so caught up with defending their faves that they can’t see that they’re making everything worse its not about which fandom started it or which fandom did what its just horrible people being shit and real people getting hurt as a result. army, exo-l or not we could use this as an excuse to fight or we could actually learn lessons from this. stop the hate and anger, we’re better than this